– …for instance, kissing a woman, smoothly. But if one of the boys kiss another boy, everyone would stare, his friends, you know.
– Not that we would look, men themselves look…we couldn’t care less.
– …and also, it’s been normalized for a woman to be bisexual because it’s very fetishized.
– Exactly, yes.
– My aunt came to my mom the other day and said: “maybe that’s why she’s kept the same friends from high school, she must be trying things. As if being gay was being promiscuous.
– No…and like, parents talk a lot about the influence of friendships and all…
– I have never kissed a friend of mine
– I’m with Julia now and it’s my first relationship with a girl, right. And before that I’d always known I was bi, only it was natural for me to be with a girl, going out with her, but I never thought “ok, I’m gonna have a relationship with this girl”.
– You only know when it happens
– And it’s very natural…
– …you still feel some internalized homophobia within yourself.
– A lot of my bisexuality, to be honest, a lot of my relationships with men is because I’d get their approval, not because I thought that guy was nice. (…) But every time I went out with a girl, I really enjoyed it, but I never thought “oh,I’m gonna ask her out again, I’m gonna date her.”
– I’ve already had dates with girls that wasn’t like “one Carnaval kiss”, a one time thing, you kiss and go away. But usually it was more like: “Why don’t we kiss here?”
– There was also something for me like every time I started making out with a girl I’d think “oh, I’m feeling something(…)” then I’d make friends with her. You turn all this into friendship.
– Exactly, man.
– Because women have this thing of intimacy, but not necessarily sexual, d’you get it? And men don’t have it.
– But sometimes you have it and you don’t know if the other girl is having it.
– And then you start to see the problem, that most of the guys you used to hang out with only wanted to make out with you, only sexual interest, but there was no friendship (…) it’s the first time I’m in a relationship where the person is my best friend.
– But sometimes it happens to get really close to a man in terms of friendship, and you just want to keep that, but he doesn’t often think like this. It’s like: “Wow, this girl and I have hit it off so well, I think she wants to go out with me.”
– But I think the right thing, man, in every relationship, is that your goal is to have total intimacy with your partner. As a matter of real partnership and friendship, not just sex or anything of the sort.